Category Archives: behavior

Letter to an Anti-Gay Relative

A person recently asked for sample letters to convince an anti-gay Christian that they were wrong. I don’t think that is likely to help, so I submitted this… Dear Uncle Luke, I think you know you are very special and … Continue reading

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More about Progressive Christians and How to Connect with Them

Last time we talked about who progressive Christians are and some things they tend to believe. High on the list of what most of them do NOT believe are harmful doctrines like angry god, inerrancy, hell, legalism, penal substitution, homophobia, … Continue reading

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Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child?

Michael and Debi Pearl’s parenting book, To Train Up a Child, is very popular among American fundamentalists. Michael has given great thought to his ideas on child-training and expresses them well. He also shares some good insights on child-parent relationships, … Continue reading

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5 Ways Christian Patriarchy Harms Men

It is easy to understand how Christian patriarchy harms women, but it might not be so clear how patriarchy harms men. Patriarchy is a religious belief in which women must submit to their husbands, who are heads of their homes, … Continue reading

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John Piper Tells an Unconvincing Story to Illustrate Gender Differences between Men and Women

In Piper’s article we discussed last time, he also includes a  story meant to illustrate specific gender differences between men and women. It is not convincing. Piper’s Story Piper begins: Suppose…a young man and woman…find themselves chatting before the worship service. … Continue reading

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John Piper and Christian Patriarchy

John Piper is a leading voice for complementarian patriarchy. Piper is chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary, a mentor to younger men of the New Calvinist movement, and was Pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church in Minneapolis for 33 years. Today, … Continue reading

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Examining Passages from Genesis Used to Support Patriarchy in the Church

Last time, we discussed biblical passages from the New Testament epistles used to support Christian patriarchy; today we will look at passages from the first chapters of Genesis. I chose these passages because they are specifically referenced in the 1988 … Continue reading

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The Alleged Biblical Basis for Christian Patriarchy

Untold numbers of Christians believe women are not equal to men and are subject to male leadership. This very harmful belief leads to terrible consequences such as the oppression and denigration of women and to an environment of physical, emotional, … Continue reading

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3 Reasons Why Loving Others is Not All There Is to Following Jesus

In recent years the idea that loving others is the essence of following Jesus has exploded. And this is a good thing! It runs counter to the view that following Jesus means embracing harmful beliefs like angry god, inerrancy, legalism, … Continue reading

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Do You Know Someone Who Wants to Know How to Begin Following Jesus (without the baggage)?

Early in my blogging history (2013), I developed a page on How to Follow Jesus. Some of you might have read it. I have never been quite satisfied with it, though, and have revised it several times. The main problem … Continue reading

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48 Short, Specific Suggestions on Loving Others as We Love Ourselves

In my previous post, I talked about Loving Others in 2017, which provides the general background for today’s post, and if you have not read it (or wish to reread it) you can click the link above. Today’s post is … Continue reading

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Loving Others with Empathy, Compassion, and Care this Year

A prominent part of Jesus’ message is that we should love others as we love ourselves. Sometimes, though, it is unclear how this plays out in practical terms. What does it even mean to love others as we love ourselves? … Continue reading

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4 Negative Consequences of Teaching Kids that Santa Claus is Real

This is probably not going to be my most popular post. But let me say that I am not against celebrating the Christmas season with gifts, and food, and sparkle and lights; with snowmen, and eggnog, and parties and cheer. … Continue reading

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Stewardship is not Just Giving to the Church – Stewardship is Giving Wisely

For the past two posts, I have made the case that mandatory tithing does not apply to believers. Such teaching is unbiblical, legalistic, and wrong. We examined the proof-texts proposed by mandatory tithing proponents and found them faulty. This is … Continue reading

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Jesus’ Final Act of Anti-Violence—Crucifixion

For the past several posts we examined passages in the gospels to determine whether Jesus is violent (see the links just below this article). The purpose of this survey was to answer both believers and unbelievers who claim that Jesus … Continue reading

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Isn’t it Violence for Jesus to Tell Us to Cut off our Hands to Avoid Punishment?–No!

Does Jesus promote violent acts? I don’t think so. Sometimes those who DO think Jesus promotes violence bring up a passage where Jesus tells us to severely injure ourselves. Mark 9 reports this saying of Jesus: If your hand causes … Continue reading

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Addendum to the Cleansing of the Temple—What about the Fig Tree?

Thank you Ruth F! In this week’s post on the cleansing of the temple, I wanted to talk about Jesus’ withering of the fig tree because I think it is closely connected to the story of the cleansing. Also, some … Continue reading

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Does the Cleansing of the Temple Show Jesus’ Violence? – I Don’t Think So

In this series we ask whether Jesus was sometimes judgmental, threatening, or violent. Those who say he was violent usually point first to the cleansing of the temple. Mark tells the story, which comes just after the triumphant entry into Jerusalem. … Continue reading

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Does Jesus Demonstrate Threats and Violence?

Opinion is sharply divided among some believers on whether Jesus consistently promoted acceptance, peace, and love toward others or whether he sometimes demonstrated judgment, threats, and violence. This leads some to consistently support peace, love, and compassion while others accept … Continue reading

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The Bible is not a Rule Book: Overcoming Legalism

People believe the Bible is many things that it is not. Last time we discussed that the Bible is not inerrant; by extension of that we will see today that the Bible is not a rule book. The claim that the … Continue reading

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